Challenge the label.
A young person who finds something difficult is still learning. Explore the particular task and what support might help, rather than defining them by the difficulty.
Notice the process.
Recognise preparation, a new strategy or the decision to try again. Specific observations give a child something useful to build on beyond a general compliment.
Make the next attempt manageable.
Ask what they might do differently and agree a realistic step. Encouragement works best alongside opportunities, support and time to practise.
From the ECNM journal
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